“Failure to communicate adequately” is a common definition of miscommunication. I find it interesting how this definition puts all of the responsibility on the communicator – none on the listener. And why “adequate”? By who’s standards? How do we know when our communication has been “adequate” for our audience?
I’ve been thinking about this because of an email miscommunication I recently had with a friend. It was one of those silly things – he was being humorous and I took him seriously. This resulted in messages of apology going in both directions. No harm done at all but the misunderstanding did have a small level of discomfort and clarifications took up our time.
Given how much we communicate today (I’m visualizing the difference from when my mother set aside one day a month to write letters to family and friends), and how quickly we create it, I believe the listener is also responsible for making sure the communication is adequate.
When I received the message from my friend, I did wonder: “Hmmmm, is he joking?” I then put the email aside for a few days before replying, hoping for some clarity. In the end, I misinterpreted his words and with that created our flurry of apologies.
What should I, the listener, have done? Well, here’s my new rule: When reading an email, if at any point you go “Hmmm, I wonder what they mean by that?” … pick up the phone!
Email is a black and white medium, a fabulous way to communicate facts and information, but quite useless when it comes to nuance. My friend’s humour would have been obvious in the sound of his voice.
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Have one more moment? Comment below and share your thoughts on when phone is better than email … or vice versa.
Enjoy your PhoneWork everyone!