The #1 Way To Build Relationships

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Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools because they have to say something. Plato

My summer months were filled with delightful social situations, but The Phone Lady part of my brain doesn’t always understand the word “vacation”. It still observes and analyzes, feeding my seemingly endless curiosity about communication.

Which led me to investigate these two words:

1) Talk – its root is Germanic and means “a tale” or “to tell” and entered Middle English meaning “a tale or story”; and

2) Conversation – its root is Old French and Latin, and means “abide or keep company with”.

At every occasion (and also on the phone), you will experience both these forms of communication. The talker tells a story (or gives an opinion) and their audience will be either highly entertained, or politely listening. If the former, it’s possible that everyone will have an opportunity to speak and tell their own story. If the latter, once the story is finished there will be some polite murmuring and then a drifting away. Everyone leaves with at least one story,  but not necessarily a connection with the story teller or anyone else in the audience.

Conversation, on the other hand, contains many voices. It is a weaving together of speaking and listening; there’s no main stage. While story telling is certainly part of conversation, it arises from questions, from curiosity, from a genuine interest in others and a desire to learn more about them. When we are in conversation we are “keeping company with” someone … and this is how we build relationships.

Conversation allows us to deliver excellent service to our customers, to learn more about our prospects and gain their trust, and helps us identify job opportunities and employers that inspire.

To create and enjoy conversation, you need to cultivate two skills: 1) active listening (I’ll share more on this next week); and 2) asking open-ended questions. Then you need to practice, practice, practice. Inspiring conversation is an ability that expands with use. Stay present and identify the opportunities. Then … make it happen. In this previous post I’ve shared my favorite, conversation-inspiring phrase: https://thephonelady.com/3-small-words-that-inspire-conversation/. Perhaps it will work for you.

Or tell me … how do you inspire conversation?

Enjoy your phone work everyone.

Closing a sale is the natural outcome of inspiring great conversations and listening intently to our potential customers. This natural approach still involves a process – a plan that moves potential customers through a journey of discovery with you. So ... what's your process? And am I the right sales coach for you? Let's find out.

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What's The Phone Lady doing?

  • One-on-one coaching with 6 amazing entrepreneurs - info about sales coaching here
  • Designing a sales campaign - that includes phone conversations - for a waste management consulting firm
  • Creating client communication module for college students
  • Delivering remote learning on essential business communication skills for job search
  • Remote learning experience on sales and customer service skills for vet equipment company
  • Remote learning experience for financial advisors
  • In-person learning experience with new business owners on creating a sales process
  • Remote learning experience on essential skills to reach and inspire conversations with C-suite executives
  • Team coaching for a firm representing natural products for arthritis in dogs
  • Remote learning experience on sales and customer service skills for a transportation company
  • Remote learning experience on both discovery and sales calls for new startups

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